Ok so there are many reasons why we love Bojack Horseman. It’s downright entertaining, for one. [How many times has that horse head disappeared and you thought you were watching the unraveling of some dude?] I’m not sure if one should admit to relating to Bojack, but we do. American people of all shades, shapes, genders and sizes. I for one, as an actor wrestle with ego and entitlement; and surely the usual hijinks of excess indulgences can be universally equalizing.

However, I was having a conversation about parents the other day and the 5th season’s funeral episode of Bojack Horseman entered the conversation. The vulnerable, uncomfortably familiar rants of the aging animated actor struck a chord with the world and set the bar sky high for its peers. But the wonder of the thing is; how many of us feel this way about our parents [to some degree].

Granted, my feelings don’t run as deep as Bojack’s. But I certainly know how it feels to be practically invisible to my parents in some ways. I know this, because I’ve been guilty of this with my daughter [and I’m likely not the only one.] Do parents really listen to their children? Somehow the vicious cycle of the first “test child” needs to be broken. Perhaps a mandatory Ted talk on how not to create an inferiority complex in your child? But here’s a question that I dare to pose. “How did Bojack’s Mom feel?”

In Season 3 the show delved into his Mother’s past and if we took the time out to link the two in our own lives we’d see what we were truly dealing with. I’ve taken a concentrated interest in learning the human behavior. And though I don’t dismiss anyone’s dysfunctions, I understand them thus take less offense. I’m not ashamed to say that at 32, it still bothers me if I feel like my opinion falls upon deaf ears when speaking with my parents. As much maturity that I’ve accumulated over the years, I can still manage to feel like a misunderstood child.

Photograph Courtesy of Altanaka

To an extent, I think that we all have parental issues. They certainly mold all future relationships. And with that knowledge, it’s important to think twice before we lock ourselves into our adult heads. There is a strange phenomenon when regarding first children; though there was a past that has gone, the old relationship of parent and [now grown] child remains. The hope is that the tension doesn’t go unaddressed. Most [black men] especially have a surplus of pride that carries throughout life until one day it’s too late (remember the black crying man video?) In the words of Tyler Durden, “let’s evolve“. Or else we might have a repeat episode of Bojack season 5 episode 6 on our hands.